Peter Arthur Ellis 1942 – 2015

Its been quite a week!!!!

Last Sunday I received a call from my mum, saying that my dad was being taken to hospital by ambulance  and could I meet him there …..

 

My father has lived with Parkinsonism for the last few years and has been declining with each passing month.

He fought bravely this past week and allowed us to be by his side each day until he passed away peacefully on Friday with my brother and my daughter by his side.  They held his hands and comforted him through his last breaths.

My sister and I and my mother had been with Dad all week, my brother came on Wednesday and my daughter came on Monday, Tuesday went back to her home 3 hours away and came back again on Thursday and stayed with him.  I know..way too much detail 😀

I was asked to write something for his service, I didn’t have time to complete it, but I wanted to share it here.

My father wasn’t always available when I was growing up, I didn’t make that any easier for him, I gave both my parents a run for their money…

I never listened, Dad would say, while we watched the loons on the lake (laughing birds we called them) he would say, stay away from the rocks you might fall in the water..did I listen? No… Splash.  Angela be careful the bbq is hot…again did I listen,  No, required a trip to emerg with a terrible burn on my arm…

Well this week I listened.

In the last year or so dad was unable to speak.  But it didn’t stop him from communicating. Dad loved to talk, once you got him started you knew you’d better pull up a comfy chair.

I can’t imagine his frustration, but he pushed through as Parkinson’s slowly took his abilities away, first his ability to walk, then his speech, motor skills started to fail, he was eating pureed foods, he was often in pain but he still maintained his ability to smile and make those around him smile.

He used those beautiful blue eyes of his, facial expressions, lots of smiles and hand gestures to let you know what he needed or how his was feeling.

If I hadn’t visited in a while boy did I hear about it!!!  He stared me down brows furrowed and refused to acknowledge me, only lasted moments but felt like a life time!

This past week he became ill and was admitted in to hospital.   He took his time in typical Ellis style, just took his time 😀  he allowed us this time with him, when he needed us the most and when we needed him.

We were watching silly videos online, telling jokes, reminiscing, cooling his head with cool damp facecloths and using our warped humor which we learned from him, telling him he looked like a little Amish girl or a creature off of star wars with all the sound effects included, he loved it smiling through his pain and high fever, we continued caring for him until his final breath with him guiding us all the way.

He needed us there to hold his hands, they were stuck in a fist like position with a little cushion wedged between so he wouldn’t hurt himself, we removed them so we could hold his hands properly, sliding our hands inside the gap, as soon as one of us moved our hands his eyes would open and back to hand holding, his eyes would close.

I sat with him one night early in the week and he kept pointing his hands together, finally I figured it out he wanted me to hold his hands, we both fell asleep.

We all had special moments with Dad like this throughout the week.

We also had some really tough decisions to make on his behalf , I know he is proud of us as we are of him.

I cant’ thank him enough for reminding us, to keep fighting , keep smiling, continue to be kind no matter what, continue to treat people with dignity and respect and most of all he taught us the great power of  love.

I’ll miss my father, he was a good , kind caring man, I’m at peace with his passing, I have no regrets other than I didn’t have enough time with him, nothing was left unsaid.

We told him we loved him and that we knew he loved us.

He’ll be missed by many, his family and his extended family at the long-term care facility he called home.

We are truly blessed he allowed us to help him on his journey “home”. He passed peacefully on February 13.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Deer in the headlights…..

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It’s been a rough week, Pauls father passed away hours before my father, we both still have the “deer in the headlights” “what the heck just happened” feeling.

We are, along with our families deeply saddened at the loss of the two wonderful men we both called “Dad”.

We had a service for my dad on Sunday…

My daughter chose the following passage to be read on Sunday,  it couldn’t have been written more perfectly…

God saw he was getting tired and a cure was not to be,
So He put His arms around him and whispered “come with me”
With tearful eyes we watched him suffer,
And saw him fade away,
Although we loved him dearly,
We could not make him stay,
A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard working hands out to rest,
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best!

 

≈Laugh loudly, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly≈

 

There really is a Santa!

Paul and I went out for breakfast on Saturday morning to our favorite place the “The Dairy Bar” 😀 😀

We had the usual,  his BIG Breakfast – eggs, pancakes, bacon, toast and home fries and my Eggs Bennie! YUM, YUM, YUM!

When we first walked in, the restaurant was packed, lots of people wearing santa hats, chatting, laughing the mood of the restaurant that morning was amazing, everyone smiling.

From where we were sitting I had a clear view of the street, which I love… I can do my people watching 😀 .  We were having our coffee talking when all of of sudden I saw this guy peeking in the window….it was SANTA!

Santa came in and said hello to everyone,  there was a family sitting near us, two little guys and a baby probably around a year old.  It brought tears to my eyes to see their faces when he walked over to them, the baby had the funniest dumbfounded look on his face, he was in awe of the man in red! 😀

I also noticed I wasn’t the only adult in the restaurant with a huge grin!

After his visit with the kids he made his rounds saying hello to everyone ordered a coffee and took a seat by the window 😀 😀

Loved it!

Santa walks up and down the main street of town for most of the month of December, he is not paid by a company or the town to do so, just a retired man dressing as Santa bringing smiles to everyone.  Many honk, wave and yell Merry Christmas!

I can only imagine the feeling he gets everyday, bringing such joy to so many.

Thanks Santa.

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Sunday Shave

Daughter #3 was heading for the tub and asked if we had any shave gel..
I said
” Ooops sorry honey, I bought wine instead of shave gel, use peanut butter”.

“OMG mother!”  Seriously?!

“Ya sorry honey, I bought wine instead”

“Nooooo,  I meant peanut butter , seriously mother?!”

” Your grandmother used to do this to me all the time,
Harvey’s Bristol Cream instead of shave gel,
that’s when I learned about peanut butter shave gel,what can I say”

“OMG, mother!

Just try it!

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Believe it or not, peanut butter makes a great shaving gel.
Just apply it like you would apply the gel, and shave as normal.
It works just as well and anyone that has bought a container of shaving gel will know, it is a hell of a lot cheaper.
The end result is a very smooth shave and, as a bonus, the oils in the peanut butter are very good for your skin,
so you don’t need to spend even more money on moisturizer for your legs or face!!!!

Your welcome 😀

 

Wednesdays Child is full of Woe

I would say “Happy Wednesday!” but I’m not saying it today!
It was not a happy day to start, I should have stayed in bed!
Although if you take into consideration that I woke up I guess maybe it was a happy day after all depending on who you talk to 😀 😀

Bentley had a sleepover last night, he and I love sleepovers!
You can read about Bentley baby here ,here, here and here!!  😀 😀
I had made some chocolate mounds/haystacks last night and the girls and I ate a few, there were about 15-20 of them left separated by wax paper.

I put them in a Tupperware container with the lid on and left them on the counter.. 😦
He is not quite 1 yet, still a puppy for another 2+ years!
He had thrown up this morning and was very dopey, even during the car ride to work.
I had only been at work about an hour and kept checking on him, calling his name, checking his breathing. I called the vet and she suggested bringing him in to check his vitals.

It was strongly advised to “hospitalize” him for the day and possibly the night…I called the guys to let them know what was happening. Usually they need to “force feed” charcoal but not Bentley Baby, they gave him the charcoal mixed with canned food and like magic..GONE! They gave him a sedative, an IV and some other meds I can’t pronounce and took him out every hour to pee. When I was leaving I told the vet when they took him out to pee/poop that he would circle numerous times until he found the perfect spot!!! *Once a mother, always a mother* That’s like telling Buddha how to stay calm….REALLY did I actually say this to the vet and get away with it?! She had a huge smile on her face and said they would take good care of him. 😀

He stayed the afternoon, during his stay, he pulled out his IV they needed to put it in his other arm and “CONE” him, even sedated he was a handful and I was called asking when I could pick him up *Laughing out Loud*!!(that part really is not true, just tried to add some draawma to the story) They did however call and say he was ready to go home, the guys were not scheduled back home until later tonight so I went and picked him up, we were only at the house for about 10 minutes when they arrived they must have driven at a great speed to get home from the “Big Smoke” to see their boy!

Poor Bentley Baby is back home with the guys tonight with blackened lips from the charcoal and a clean system and the dreaded “CONE”.

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Poor Baby, I pulled over and got him in the back seat so he could lie down with the cone there was no hope of that in the front seat of my little Nissan

The Vet and Vet technician that looked after Bentley were amazing and treated me with the same kindness.
I was waiting for the vet to come and talk to me when the receptionist came in and said the vet would be a few more minutes and offered coffee or tea and I declined but in typical Angie style requested a Scotch on the rocks!! sorry Mum 😀

So I guess it was a pretty amazing day after all!!!

Bentleys  Chocolate Mounds

chocolate mounds

I have been “non baking” these since elementary school, soooo goooood!!

Ingredients

6  tablespoons cocoa
1/2 cup butter
1/2 cup milk
1 1/2 cups sugar
1/2 teaspoon vanilla
3  cups oatmeal
1  cup coconut

Directions
Boil first 4 ingredients for 2 minutes.
Remove from heat and add vanilla.
Pour over oatmeal and coconut and mix well.
Drop tsp fulls onto wax paper and wait until dry and easy to lift off paper.

We so crafty!

We’ve been busy creating today

we took a board off an old crate

*no applause necessary*

Photos are grainy just like the wood 😀

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Found some fancy hooks

ohhh so rustic

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And Voila, custom made coat rack!! With some family artwork 😀 😀

That’s mine on the right

I love melting crayons…

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Bet you all had no idea how talented I was did you?

Not only can she write a darn good blog but her carpentry skills are dynamite!!

* you may applaud now*

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Oh, so not funny!

I finally dragged myself out of bed this morning after hitting snooze a few times and stumbled to the kitchen for my coffee and proceeded to take  the dogs outside.
When I came in I thought to myself,  
“gee I think I’d like some toast and peanut butter”…

and this is what I found!!!

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Daughter #1 has left on her first real vacation as an adult.

She’s gone to Cuba, Iberostar Laguna Azul to be exact 😀

Lucky ducky!

She left this gift for me in the cupboard!

Graffiti on my pb jar?!

Really!

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Can’t wait for her to come home…

The 24th Birthday Guilt trip!

Today is Daughter #1’s Birthday she is turning 24.

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Daughter #1  informed her aging grandmother, beautifully caring Aunt and her beloved mother that she would be unable to join them for a birthday dinner celebration as she was having dinner with her father.  (me ex-hubby) 😀

Well that’s fine, it is her birthday and she can choose who she’d like to spend it with……:D

I sent my daughter this text last night in classic “mum of the year” style, it is an art that my mother passed down to me as a young child, has the knack of “guilting” you into doing things by saying things like “it would be lovely if you could join us, we don’t often get together as whole family anymore, but if your too busy, we’ll all understand”  😀 She is the queen of guilt trips!

Here is why I will be up for Mother of the Year award this year:

“Only one more sleep until your birthday, life hasn’t been the same since the day you were born, I understand you are spending time with your father on the day of your birth , when I went through hours of agonizing pain, had my beautiful young body distorted and stretched and damn near lost my life for the second time, changed your poopy diapers, endured many sleepless days and nights while you suffered from colic, cleaned up your projectile vomit and endured your wicked tantrums, while all the while your father drank beers with the boys!!  Enjoy your dinner with Dad!!!  LoL!!”

her response was:

“Grrrr.”

I phoned her shortly afterwards and we both had a good laugh!

This morning I posted a birthday wish on her facebook wall:

“Happy Birthday Anastasia!!! Hope you have a wonderful day!!! I am so proud of the woman you are becoming and I smile everyday because you are my daughter, and then I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it!!!! I Love you very much! xoxoxoxoxo Have an amazing Day, and say hi to Dad for me tonight !”

I wonder if they’ll have birthday cake?  I have cake here….hmmm 😀

As many of you know, my family is a funny bunch, we love each other to the moon and back but we also love to tease and antagonize each other.

Happy Happy Birthday Daughter #1 hope it was a good one!!

Hope you’ve all had an awesome day like I have 😀

≈Laugh loudly, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly≈

Little Kitchen Fairies

This has been another busy week.  I left for work yesterday and the kitchen was quite a mess.  Coffee spills, bread crumbs, pots waiting to be washed.

dirty dishes

We had gone out for dinner with friends last night and had a wonderful time, lots of laughs, good food and amazing company!  I didn’t have time between coming home from work and going out to tidy up.

Both the girls had invited friends over to spend the night, they had all gone out to play in the snow until around 10:30 last night.  I had looked at the mess in the kitchen which had grown and decided just to leave it and go to bed, I’d deal with it in the morning.

I woke up this morning and dreaded the mess that would greet me.

When I entered the kitchen it was immaculate, pots cleaned, dishes washed in the dishwasher, not a crumb to be found, the counters had been wiped and dish cloths neatly hung on the sink!!!!

My heart began to melt 😀 😀

The girls had pitched in and cleaned up the kitchen and had cleaned up the bits and pieces lying around the livingroom and  dining room, they even took the garbage out!!!!

These are truly the things that make me happy!!!

Some may say that they should have done this anyway…but they were not asked to do it, they just took it upon themselves to do something nice and I has made my day!!!!!

Thank you to my little kitchen fairies you are the BEST!!!!

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View from my back door after snow had been shovelled off the roof, my little fairies had fun last night!!!

See my post from a couple of days ago…..

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≈Laugh loudly, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly≈

I did it!

gift bags

It’s official!!

After 8 1/2 hours of driving and shopping.

The Christmas shopping is finally done!!!  Yay Me 😀

I have a little tiny bit left to do, but will finish that up after work tomorrow.

Then there is the wrapping.   Ahhh gift bags!!!!!

So until tomorrow…….

Laugh loudly, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly