Monkey Mind



I have had a lot of trouble sleeping the last couple of months, first I can’t seem to settle my mind and fall asleep and when I finally do fall asleep, I wake up 3 or 4 hours later wide awake mind racing again.

I found this article on the Caring Bridge Uplift Blog:

It’s been a long day and I’m tired. I get into bed ready for eight hours of blissful, uninterrupted sleep. As soon as my head hits the pillow my mind seems to come alive. And not just alive, but racing like I just had a triple shot of espresso. I begin rehashing the day, the year, my life. I go over the day’s interactions, reworking what I should have said or what I should have done. I worry about the stuff I have to do tomorrow, and the next day, and the next, and…wait! I’m trying to get some sleep—remember?

A Mind That Doesn’t Quiet

If this happens to you too, you have a bad case of Monkey Mind. It’s when your mind jumps from thought to thought, and as much as you want it to stop, it just won’t settle. It seems to be worse at night, getting between you and a good night’s sleep. It’s frustrating because the harder you try to make it stop, the worse it seems.

A mind that doesn’t quiet comes from over-activating the fight or flight response in your body from stress, anxiety, and endless worry. And when you try to slow down at the end of the day, your body is still in overdrive—it just won’t turn off.

Tips to Calm Your Mind

If your mind is jumping around like a monkey from tree to tree, what can you do to calm it down? First, realize that resisting the racing mind only makes it worse. The more you let it frustrate you, the more it will race. So, start by letting go and accepting what is. The awareness that you’re distracted or stressed is a good starting place in calming yourself. Beyond self-awareness, here are a few things that might help:

Anchor yourself to something physical. For example, concentrate on how your head feels on the pillow, or focus on how the covers feel against your toes. Try to focus on the physical sensations for as long and as deeply as you can.

Pay attention to the rhythm of your breathing. This is also moving from the cerebral to the physical, but the pattern of your breathing is both hypnotic and relaxing.

Meditate. This doesn’t have to be anything fancy or formal. You can just choose a word such as “calm” or “relax” and slowly repeat it in your mind.

Empty your mind. This one works really well for me. Think to yourself, “What’s my next thought?” Given the pressure to stop for a second and come up with an important and coherent thought, your mind will empty like a wastebasket on trash day. Try it and see how long you can keep your mind empty.

Get some help. A few sessions with an acupuncturist, an hour on the massage table, a yoga class, or a brisk walk with a sympathetic friend all are effective ways to relive stress and calm your jumpy mind.

About the Author:
Lynn Jaffee is a practitioner of acupuncture and Chinese medicine at Acupuncture in the Park near Minneapolis, MN. Lynn is also the author of the book, Simple Steps: The Chinese Way to Better Health. For more articles on staying well, check out her blog at Acupuncture Health Insights.

My Manic Monday


I woke up this morning to the sounds of birds singing, without the assistance of my alarm clock!! That’s the best way to wake up!!

To start a new week I though I’d try a new yoga routine which allows me to stay in bed an extra few minutes, the book says you can do this routine on your yoga mat or just stay in bed… well that was a no brainer 😀

Once I’d finished my stretching I got up grabbed a cup of coffee and went outside with the dogs, the sun was just coming up, such a beautiful way to start the day!

I came in and started making the kids lunches grabbed drink boxes, cereal bars, cleaned up some dishes , then sat down at the computer…that’s when it began!

Turned on the computer, no internet, mini freak out it happens sometimes I just have to run down stairs and re boot the internet. Not this time!

I decided I’d put a load of laundry on, then I could hang it outside I’d have plenty of time the way my morning was going….

Woke the girls up with fresh fruit smoothies at 6:30 cause I’m such a good mom 😀 😀

Hey I was having a great morning so far only if that internet had been working.

I was just getting ready to do Part two of my new Yoga workout when daughter # 3 yells “Theres no internet!! Can you go down stairs and fix it?!” she is afraid to go into the basement after one to many spooky movies

So I stop what I’m doing cause I’m such a good mom 😀 😀 and run downstairs to reboot again! waited a few minutes plugged everything back in. Good. Back upstairs to re start my yoga. Ok done. I feel good. Time for a shower. We have two bathrooms which is awesome but Daughter #3 is in the tub and daughter # 2 wants a shower!!! I feel my feel good yoga, bird singing morning coming to an end.

The morning continued it was finally my turn to have a shower! Success!!

Then it began again, I felt after the weekend that all laundry had been done! HA! My stuff was sitting downstairs in the washing machine. Fantastic! Did I have a plan B? of course not it was Monday morning!!

I did find something to wear eventually…track pants and tank top should be appropiate…not 😀 😀

By this point my mindful yoga had worn off and the whole morning went to “hell in a hand basket” sorry mum

Girls lunches were almost packed, I said my goodbyes and scrambled out the door.

I finally got to work and needed to help “the boss man” set up a new printer/fax and print off invoices asap! Gawd! sorry mum

It’s not as quick and easy as some may like it to be there were 3 different cords to plug in, ink to install, software to install and to boot it’s wireless which is good but just one more step! Finally we got it going only after about 1/2 hr which is pretty good I thought.

My day went on phone ringing, emails, more invoicing, piles of paper work to go through , receipts to enter, went to a customers cottage to open up for the a/c guy came back blah blah blah, getting ready to go home and drove about a km and forgot that I never went back to lock up!! Back I go grab the keys hop in the truck, lock up, drive back and finally get into my car to go home.

As I’m pulling out someone honked at me, it was a friend of mine who I thought was still out West…so we met at the “Cona Stoa” and chatted for a while, I figured I was already late soooo…we said our goodbyes and I was almost home when I see “the boss mans” almost in the intersection, another truck behind his, and then I saw “the boss man” with a bag of dog biscuits, two dogs were running around the intersection and he was trying to get them into his truck and then what I’m not sure 😀 I pulled over and tried to help, I just ended up running up the side of the highway like a crazy lady with a bag of dog biscuits in hand saying “here doggie doggie I have treat” well I didn’t actually say that but I may as well have. “The boss man” eventually got one of the dogs and called the OSPCA to come and help out with the second dog.

By this time I still had the grocery store to go to, finally got home and forgot the friggin sorry mum popsicles the little darlings wanted 😀

And no I did not go back but I did make a lovely fresh fruit smoothie!!!!

This has been one of the worst day I have had in a long time and I won’t be doing Yoga tomorrow!!!!

I am going to bed soon because I’ve had enough, I hate to wish my days away but this is one day I can’t wait to be over with!
Just one more quick thing
Daughter # 3 has been munching most of the evening and she was into the cupboard again and I said “would you just stop eating” I didn’t really think about what I had said or I wouldn’t have said it and so it began “oh you think I’m fat?” and even as I’m proofreading Daughter # 3 is playing her music loudly right in front of me dancing and singing!! Just shoot me!! I must be quiet as not to start world war 3 😀

Good grief Charlie Brown!!!!


“Tomorrow is a new day”

Enjoy this awesome video by The Bangles
Wow 1986 😦

I’m tired revisited

The days have been so grey and we haven’t really seen and sunshine in about a month so here it is

I wrote and posted in this in August, somehow I think I could post this everyday 😀

I’m Tired

Every so often I just get tired, tired of working, tired of cooking and cleaning, tired of the constant debates with the kids, tired of my responsibilities,  and tired of being so damn happy and positive all the time!

I am just tired today, my body feels heavy and I have aches and pains and my brain is not working to its usual full capacity 🙂 

No Mother I was not drinking last night!  I’m tired of that too.

So I think I’ll just go to bed .

I usually “Count my Blessings”  but am too tired for that as well.

Tommorow is a new day!


Day 6 – 30 Day Book Challenge – A book that makes you cry

30 Day Book Challenge – Day 6

 A Book that makes you cry

My father has been suffering from Parkinsonism for the last few years it is the nasty cousin of Parkinsons disease.

It’s very hard for all of us to see this disease taking over his body and to see how much pain he is in. I can only begin to imagine what he is feeling like not only emotionally but physically, the pain he is dealing with on a daily basis. And to know each day his body is very slowly and painfully losing its fight.

As a family member not being able to comfort him is one of the hardest things I’ve ever dealt with.  He is in a wonderful Long Term Care Facility which happens to be where my daughter works and they treat him like family and give him the care and dignity that he deserves. They often go beyond “the call of duty” with him and for that I will always be grateful!

Lately have not been visiting as much as I should due to the demands of my daily life but also I just find it harder and harder to see him….very selfish I know…this book really does help though and I think I should probably pick it up again and be there for him!!

We all love Dad and want to make sure he is as comfortable and as happy as he can be and to help support him as a family and individuals.

My mum the wonderful lady that she is has compiled all sorts of information and reading material for us to help make it easier to understand and she bought me a book called Life on Hold by Laurel S. Brunvoll & David G. Seiler they are a father and daughter who lost their wife and mother to a long battle with cancer.  It’s like a personal journal with many excerpts written by her mother/his wife.

Below is a brief description of the book taken from Amazon books

Beyond sending a “get-well card,” many people know little about supporting someone through a serious illness — let alone passing through one themselves.
Life on Hold answers the need of many people who face — or may soon be faced with — a health crisis of longer duration. Written by a father and daughter who lost their wife and mother to an extended battle with cancer, this sensitive
personal journal is dotted with illustrations from real-life survivors. Each chapter offers tools for dealing with the challenges of physical illness. A
practical, spiritual handbook, it shows sufferers, ministers, lay workers,family, and friends how to trust God during a season of recovery or release. Scripture and counsel on getting through the first several weeks are among this book’s most rare and precious gifts.

I highly, highly recommend this book for anyone going through any serious illness with a family member even if you’re not entirely religious…